We said it’s good...but not for us.

In 1998 when we visited a fertility clinic about a vasectomy reversal (9 years after Dan’s initial procedure), the Dr. suggested a sperm donor or ADOPTION...we said it’s good for others but not for us.
In 2004 we heard the call to adopt.


In 2004 when we began the adoption process we wanted a toddler girl. We heard of older child adoptions....we said it’s good for others but not for us. On March 14, 2006 9 yr 11 month old, Yana Michelle, officially became our daughter.


In 2005 when we briefly discussed special needs adoption, Dan felt we would accept a child with special needs but did not feel called to request a child with special needs....we said it’s good for others but not for us. In 2008 we requested to adopt a child with Cerebral Palsy and on September 11, 2008, Nadia Hope became our forever daughter.


Up until the summer of 2009 we were certain we could never be crazy enough to adopt a boy....we said it’s good for others but not for us. On November 3, 2009 14 yr 10 month old, Ivan Nicklas (and his beautiful 12.5 yr old sister, Olya Diane) was celebrated into our family.


There was a time when we said adopting a child of another race was an added obstacle we were not feeling we could handle....we said it’s good for others but not for us. In 2010 I began inquiring about the Haitian orphans needing placement and families in America.


Many times we’ve said we could never be a foster family....we said it’s good for others but not for us. In 2010 we researched the requirements of becoming a foster family here in South Carolina.


In 2008 when we felt called to adopt a child with special needs we said we would not have a problem taking in a child with physical special needs but did not feel called to knowingly pursue a child with moderate cognitive delays &/or issues....we said it’s good for others but not for us. Here we are in 2010, God has impressed upon our hearts to adopt a child with Down syndrome.


Sometimes I have to wonder if God doesn’t just get a silly grin...kind of a half-smile and just chuckle to himself when we say these thing “it’s good for others but not for us.” He knows His plan for us and knows His children He has chosen for us to care for LONG before we were born. Thank you God for the transformation of our hearts and I’m glad we can make you smile, the same way we smile our chosen (by You) children amuse us with their ideas about their future.



With that said, please lift “Joy” in prayer. We have found another child with Down syndrome we have been trying to obtain information for, for about 2 weeks or so now. I am praying tomorrow is the day we will know the rest and will be able to take our next step of faith as we commit to her and pray for God’s guidance and provision.